Come Alive: The Woman’s Story

This is the first devo in a “Come Alive” series. 

The book of Mark shows us how Jesus lived his life.

In Mark 5, we walk through a day in the life of Jesus – as he walks through the town and talks to the people. In the midst of the day, we meet two women. Different women, different backgrounds, but they have something in common on this day. They both meet Jesus.

The first woman has been sick for a long time. We don’t know her name but we do know she has been bleeding for 12 years – in addition to the weakness in her body, her disease has made her unclean in the eyes of the community and her family. Verse 26 says, “She had suffered a great deal under the care of many doctors and had spent all she had, yet instead of getting better she grew worse.” She is desperate for a change in her life and had heard about this man going around town healing people. She believed if she could just touch him, it might bring the healing she’d searched for. She didn’t want to talk to him or sit with him, she just wanted to touch his clothes. She had tried everything else, so why not try this?

The people in town that day wanted to get close to Jesus – close enough to hear what he had to say, close enough to see, just in case he did something extraordinary. As Jesus moved through the crowd, so did this woman. She couldn’t help but touch people on her way to Jesus. Her desperation drove her to risk working her way through the crowd that had always rejected her to get to the man she hoped held healing.

She finally got close enough to reach out and touch the edge of his shawl. As soon as she did, she knew she was healed. And Jesus knew he’d been touched. He could have just kept walking – he and the woman both knew he’d healed her. That could have been enough, but that’s not how Jesus works. So he stopped.

Maybe he wanted thedisciples to know what had happened.  When Jesus asked, “Who touched me?” I can just imagine the look on the disciples’ faces. They were young men, not far out of their teenage years, and they responded, “You see all these people? And you ask ‘Who touched me?’”  They didn’t understand the difference between the casual contact of the crowd and the faith-filled touch of someone desperate for healing. But Jesus did.

Maybe he wanted the crowd to know this woman they’d always seen as unclean wasn’t sick anymore. There were probably others in the crowd that day that were ill. When they saw her healing, they may have wondered, “Well, I bumped into Jesus and I wasn’t healed.” But there is a huge difference between bumping into Jesus and reaching out to him.

But maybe he stopped and pointed her out because he wanted herto know that it wasn’t her touch that had healed her. It was her faith. We can find a lot of things wrong with her faith – it was slow in coming (she’d tried everything else first); it was a little superstitious (if I just touch his garment, I’ll be healed); she was secretive about it (she didn’t want anyone to know about the hope she was placing in this simple touch). But here is the key – she had finally placed her faith in Jesus. Her desperate faith, fueled by losing everything and coming to the end of her own resources. The desperate faith that had pushed her past every obstacle and every fear to reach out and touch the only one who could help her.

When the woman heard Jesus ask, “Who touched me?” She stepped forward and fell at his feet. When he spoke to her, he could have used her name, or he could have called her “woman” – but instead he looked her in the eyes and said, “Daughter, your faith has made you well; go in peace, and be healed of your disease.” Jesus didn’t want to just step into her life for a moment, give her what he knew she needed, and then walk back out. That’s not the kind of relationship Jesus wants – he wants a relationship that allows us to be strong and healthy and one where he calls us “daughter.”

As you read about this woman, think about your own story. Consider these lessons and what you can learn from them.  

This woman needed Jesus. Just like me. Just like you. Just like the woman who will walk into your group for the first time next week.

When did you first realize your need for Jesus?

Focus on the healer.  As Jesus moved through the crowd that day, he changed one person at a time. If Jesus wouldn’t have called the woman out of the crowd and made sure she knew that her faith made her well, she may have always believed that the tassel on Jesus’ prayer shawl held some healing power. But after speaking to Jesus, she would never talk about that tassel. She would always talk about how Jesus made her whole. That is the story she would tell because she had been transformed.

What have you focused on in the past that didn’t fulfill you? How did you discover that Jesus was the only one that can make you whole? 

When Jesus steps into the story, things change. Maybe not immediately but eventually and eternally.  Because that’s what Jesus does. He move things from death to life, literally. He did it for this woman – he changed her present and he changed her future.

How did Jesus change you? What were you like before you met him? How are you different now?

When Jesus steps into our story, he doesn’t want to just pass through. He wants to stay. He wants to form a bond that calls you “daughter.”

What does Jesus’ desire for a father-child relationship mean to you? How does that relationship impact your decisions? 

The Best Assumptions

I have not always been one to assume the best about others.

There, I said it. It’s not pretty, but it’s true.

As a teenager, I was a people-pleaser who followed the rules. That combination means that I didn’t get into trouble very often. But when I think back on my teenage years, I see that my people-pleasing, rule-following heart was very judgmental about those who made different choices.

I assumed that everyone had the same options, came from the same background, and knew the same things I did. And when they made a choice that I would not have made, I judged them because my way was “right” – which meant their way had to be “wrong.”

I was able to filter what came out of my mouth, for the most part. So I was definitely seen as a kind, people-pleasing, rule-following teenager. But people can spot the fake smile or insincere compliment, and they know when you look at them as if they are your project to fix. It wasn’t until I was a young adult when I realized I was basing how I interacted with people on what I could see in them. I wasn’t even considering what might be happening that I couldn’t see.

A few years ago, I was sitting around a table with young moms. We were playing a simple icebreaker and sharing just three simple facts about ourselves. One young mom shared that she had two children, worked at a local grocery store and was a drug addict. She was looking me straight in the eyes when she said it because she wanted to know how I was going to react. I was the leader of the group and my reaction was going to shape her experience there. Would I look away because I judged her or because I was shocked? Or would I embrace her story and want to know more? I have not always reacted in a loving way in situations like this, but this time, I invited her to lunch and asked her to tell me more. As her story unfolded, I was shocked. Shocked by what she had been faced with and the options she did (or mostly didn’t) have, shocked by the decisions she had made and by the painful decisions others had made for her. It would have been easy for me to walk away and ignore the truth and darkness, but I kept listening as she explained her process of making a series of good decisions that were gradually moving her into a much better circumstance.

If I had continued to look at her as someone who was just paying the price for her “wrong” choices, I would have missed her incredible story of forgiveness, grace, love and just pure grit. I would have missed knowing one of the bravest, smartest women I’ve ever met.

What I understand now is that we don’t know anyone’s real story just by looking at them. We have two choices: we can judge others based on what we think we know OR we can look at others as they really are – the beloved children of God (whether they know that about themselves or not.)

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. (Philippians 2:3)

This isn’t just about changing the words we use (although that’s a start), it’s about setting aside our need to be “right” and all of our assumptions, and getting to know the real person within her real story.

Originally shared on the MOPS Blog. Go read more there, because we believe moms are the most powerful creatures on the planet. We are the ones influencing the smallest details of people’s day, but also the trajectory of generations. When moms are resourced, when moms are elevated, when moms are educated, when moms are empowered to do what they are meant to do in the world, everyone is better because of it.

A Noisy Gong


Around 54 A.D., the Apostle Paul wrote an eye-opening letter to the church in Corinth. The people were busy comparing their contributions to the church and judging each other’s value based on their gifts – the things they did to help the church and community. Paul told the Corinthians that every person’s contribution was important and emphasized the need for unity.

But then he tells them, as excellent as their contributions are, love is better. I may develop and use my gift to its fullest but what is it worth if I don’t love other people?  

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.  – I Corinthians 13:1-3

The Hebrew word for “gong” describes metal made of brass or copper mixed with tin – normally shaped into a drum that yields a hollow, echoing noise. Corinth was steeped in pagan religions and rituals. The people danced wildly under the influence of drugs and alcohol while pagan priests beat their metal drums louder and faster to increase the frenzy. When Paul compared the unloving spirit to a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal, the Corinthians could relate. They knew exactly what this empty worship sounded like because they heard the clamoring of it all day long.

Paul tells the people of Corinth, and us, that it is possible to be doing all the right things, but if our actions are void of love, those things lose their power. In 1 Corinthians 13, Paul describes love in action. Most of the descriptions he uses are verbs. The noun “love” is a great word. It feels ethereal and conjures up all the good emotions, but Paul isn’t writing about lofty concepts or how love feels. The kind of love he is describing is not just talk. It is action.


Join me in studying more about Love In Action through this YouVersion study.

Do You Know It Full Well?

Parents understand that moment of marvel when we see our child for the first time – whether through birth or adoption. There is nothing like that moment. We understand the idea of things being wonderfully made because we’ve held them in our arms and looked them in the face. The wonder which fills us when we look in the face of our child is the same thing God feels when he looks at each of us.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14

God took great thought and care into putting the human body together. It is an amazing combination of intricately intertwined systems. Our eyes can distinguish up to 1 million color surfaces and take in more information than the largest telescope known to man. Our lungs have a surface area the size of a tennis court. Just three months into pregnancy, an unborn child already has fingerprints, which will never change throughout his life. In one day, the human heart pumps blood that travels a total of 12,000 miles. Your body cells are regenerating themselves every single day, which means you have an entirely new set of taste buds every 10 days, new nails every 6 to 10 months and new bones every 10 years. God formed us as he wants us to be. There are choices we make in our lives that alter that design, but our basic formation was created and blessed by God.

Do you know it full well?

While this verse describes our unique and remarkable bodies and gives an indication of our value from God’s perspective, this Psalm is more about God than about us. We were made by a God whose acts inspire fear and wonder and should draw us into worship of the creator. We may not understand anything else about God, but we know his works are wonderful.

Keep reading in Psalm 139. Verse 15 says you were woven together (NIV), intricately wrought (KJV) which translates as “embroidered.” If you’ve ever embroidered anything, you know it takes time, focus and attention to detail. God embroidered you. But he did more than just design and form you – verse 16 says he planned your days. He planned tasks for you to perform (Read Ephesians 2:10; Philippians 2:12-13). He plans the very best for you (Read Romans 12:2). God feels so strongly about you that he intricately plans your life.

Do you know it full well?

If we don’t base our decisions and identity on the truth of how God feels about us, we let others dictate how we feel about ourselves and may make decisions outside of his plan. Warren Wiersbe says, “Wrong ideas about God will ultimately lead to wrong ideas about who we are and what we should do, and this leads to a wrong life on the wrong path toward the wrong destiny.” The right knowledge of God’s opinion of us is the key to understanding our gifts, passions, abilities and seeing our experiences in the light of God’s plan.

Read Psalm 139:14 several times over the next week. Read it, whisper it, say it out loud to yourself and to your children. Each time you do, emphasize this phrase: I know that full well.

Today write your own psalm. It doesn’t have to rhyme or have a meter or cadence to it. Just write a message to God. Worship him for how he created you.

Selah

Let’s look at Psalm 3 today. But, before we do, let’s look at one word that we are going to see a few times – the word is Selah. It is a word used frequently in the Psalms, but the meaning of the Hebrew word Selah is uncertain. It may be a musical or liturgical direction, because so many of the Psalms were written as poems or songs, but the closest we can get to defining it is “Pause.”

Psalm 3 is a Psalm of David, written when he was fleeing from his son, Absalom. David had real fears. He was running for his life. So with the meaning of the word Selah, and the very real fears David faced in mind, let’s read what David wrote, pause every time you read the word, Selah

3 O Lord, how many are my foes!
    Many are rising against me;
many are saying of my soul,
    “There is no salvation for him in God.” Selah.

But you, O Lord, are a shield about me,
    my glory, and the lifter of my head.
I cried aloud to the Lord,
    and he answered me from his holy hill. Selah.

I lay down and slept;
    I woke again, for the Lord sustained me.
I will not be afraid of many thousands of people
    who have set themselves against me all around.

Arise, O Lord!
    Save me, O my God!
For you strike all my enemies on the cheek;
    you break the teeth of the wicked.

Salvation belongs to the Lord;
    your blessing be on your people! Selah.

This Psalm is not about what we are doing. It is about what God will do for us. He is our shield. He will lift our heads. There are many times in scripture where we are told to do certain things – we are to go and tell others about Jesus, we are to study and show ourselves approved; we are to love our neighbors. However, this part of scripture isn’t about that. This psalm tells us we can rest because God is our shield. We can rest because he is the lifter of our heads.

Many of the fears that we face are real, the decisions we have to make that cause our heart to race, the concerns that keep us up at night, are legitimate concerns.

Name your fear, your concern, that thing that’s not letting you rest – say it out loud to our Father.

Dear Father,

How many are the concerns and fears that rise up against us. Remind us that you are our shield, that you send answers and help when we cry out. Father bring us rest, because we know that you sustain us, that you protect us, that you are the lifter of our heads. Thank you for this day of rest, for this moment of Selah. 

Amen

Thank you for pausing for a moment with me today and more than anything, may you find your rest in the one who came to save you, the one who lifts your head. May his blessing be on your people.

Art and Photo Cred: Kenzi Quigg

Embracing Change

I think it is safe to say that right now we are very focused on change. Change in the seasons and nature; changes in our children as they grow; constant changes in our society and world. 

Easter is really about embracing change. In the weeks leading up to Jesus’ crucifixion, the disciples had to change their view on what Jesus came to do. And certainly, after the resurrection, they were faced with a change in their own plans. Jesus was changing their lives, their future, their entire story – which is exactly what Jesus does for us. 

So this Easter, let’s talk about the way Jesus changed us and how he continues to change us. Often we are hesitant to talk about the things Jesus is doing in our lives because we are ashamed of our choices and experiences. Sometimes we are hesitant because we feel our story is not exciting enough. While the details matter, the most important element of your story is Jesus and what he did for you. 

We asked the MOPS Leadership Experience team to each share a piece of her own story. We wrote one lie we believed or one obstacle we faced and then we wrote the truth of Jesus. These cardboard testimonies use simple materials to tell the powerful story of God’s faithfulness in our lives. 


God wants to use the change in your life to help change someone else’s. If you know about the goodness, forgiveness and faithfulness of God, go tell someone who doesn’t.  Because following Jesus changes everything. 

See Me

When my daughter was little and she wanted to show off her monkey-bar skills she would call out, “See me, mama! See me!” She wanted me to watch – to know I appreciated what she was doing.

In Genesis, we meet a woman named Hagar. She was poor and pregnant – feeling scared, useless and alone. But God knew her past and knew right where she was. She realized he was a God who saw her, even when she was trying to hide. She called God El Roi – “the God who sees” (Genesis 16:13). This is the only time in scripture where this name for God is used.

As we keep reading in Genesis, we find Hagar two years later. She and her son, Ishmael, have been banished and Ishmael is dying from thirst. Hagar is weeping over her inability to help him. Suddenly God speaks to her through an angel who says, “What is the matter, Hagar? Do not be afraid; God has heard the boy crying as he lies there. Lift the boy up and take him by the hand, for I will make him into a great nation”(Genesis 21:17-18). Then God opened Hagar’s eyes, and she saw just what they needed right then – a well full of water. It seems Hagar had forgotten the name she called out to God years before. She forgot that her God is El Roi.

During her life, my mom was diagnosed with cancer three times. Every time we sat at a table across from a doctor and heard the word “cancer” followed by options, treatments, and prognoses. The last time we sat at that table, the doctor said there were very few options and we probably only had a few months left with her. After the doctor left, my mom said, “Well, what do we know?” Our first response was, “We know cancer sucks.” My mom responded, “Yes, it does. But we also know that God has always been faithful to us, and he will be faithful this time, too.”  She remembered that her God is El Roi.

Mom lived four years beyond that last meeting around the doctor’s table. We were so grateful for all of that time, but there were many times during those years when I sat with my mom and wondered, “Does God even know we’re here? Does he have any idea?” How often in the midst of our fear, loneliness, pain or confusion do we cry out, “See me, God! See me!”? He saw Hagar and was faithful to her and her son. He saw my family in that doctor’s office and he understood our circumstances. He knows where we are and will meet us there to provide exactly what we need. He is El Roi – the God who sees.

Something to Consider

Haggai is a little book of prophecy near the end of the Old Testament. It’s less than two pages, but God packs a great lesson into this little book.

Read Haggai 1:1-11. The Israelites had been in captivity (again) and God delivered them from their captors (again). The people were thankful for deliverance and started rebuilding the temple. They built the foundation and the altar and then they stopped. They had time and plenty of materials but they left God’s temple sitting unfinished. They started strong but got distracted.

Read Haggai 1:2-4 again:  “These people say the time has not yet come to rebuild the house of the Lord.”  Then the word of the Lord came by the hand of Haggai the prophet, “Is it a time for you yourselves to dwell in your paneled houses, while this house lies in ruins?”

I’m sure if we asked the Israelites they would say God was the most important thing to them, but their actions didn’t support it. The people didn’t say they would never build the temple just that they had other things they wanted to do first. What they were doing wasn’t bad, they just weren’t doing things in the right order.

Have you ever done good things in the wrong order? In Haggai 1:6, God pointed out what their out-of-order priorities were doing to them: “You have sown much, and harvested little. You eat, but you never have enough; you drink, but you never have your fill. You clothe yourselves, but no one is warm. And he who earns wages does so to put them into a bag with holes.”

They worked but never accomplished much. They didn’t have enough food or drink to fill them. They had clothes, but not enough to keep them warm. They earned money but wasted it.

Jump forward to Haggai 1:9-11 and read how God explains why their work isn’t accomplishing much. God needed to get their attention. Because of God’s great love for the Israelites, he doesn’t leave them in the mess their priorities created. He tells them how to fix it.

Read Haggai 1:7-8. What were God’s instructions? God told the people to go finish his house but he tells them to do something first. He says: “Consider your ways.” 

As a mom, have you ever said to your child, “Sit there and think about what you’ve done!”? (If you haven’t yet, you will one day!) God is telling the Israelites, consider your ways. Think about your choices. Examine your heart. THEN, after you have done that, go finish what you started.

The best way to check your priorities is to consider these three things: Where do I spend my time?  Where do I spend my money?  What do I protect? 

Write down your answers. You don’t have to share them with anyone, just consider them for yourself.

Go back to Haggai – Why did God want the Israelites to build the temple in the first place?  The answer is in verse 8 which says, “that I may take pleasure in it and that I may be glorified.” Isn’t this why we were each created in the first place? If some of the things on our list of priorities above do not bring God pleasure and glory, we need to consider our ways and ask, “Why am I doing what I’m doing?”

It is easy to get busy with all the details of planning a life. But we must consider our foundation and think about why we are doing what we are doing.  Before you plan one more thing, consider your ways – personally and for those you lead. 

Good Works

For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.  Ephesians 2:10 

God has plans and purposes for us, works he has long planned for us to do.  He already knows what the year holds.  But are we willing to dedicate our time to God and resolve to do life and leadership in his name, no matter what comes along? Let’s look closely at this verse:

Workmanship: We are God’s workmanship. He made us.  He put thought and effort into us. Take a moment and write down how it makes you feel, knowing you are God’s workmanship.  

Good works: According to Ephesians 2:10, why were we made?

My answer was, “To do good works.” But why?  It’s not to justify ourselves.  Read these verses and make note of what good works don’t do for us: Ephesians 2:8-9, Romans 11:6, 2 Timothy 1:9

These all make it clear we aren’t justified or forgiven because of anything we do.  So, why were we created to do good works? 

Read these verses and write what each says about the result of good works: Matthew 5:16, Romans 12:1, Colossians 1:10. Summarize all of these in a sentence:

My good works____________________________________________________________

Prepared in Advance: As we go through our lives, God lays opportunities before us to do good. It is not coincidence when we see someone struggling with something with which we can help.  It is not luck or fate.  It is God.  If we see someone in trouble and there is a way for us to help, God expects us to do it. God makes sure we see the lonely mom and then expects us to befriend her.  He makes sure we see the financial need and expects us to make a sacrifice. When God shows us a work to be done, we can be sure he has prepared it for us in advance and has the expectation that we will complete it.

Think back over the past week.  How many times did you see the opportunity for a good work but didn’t complete it? 

Did you say: “I don’t have extra time…money…energy right now”?  I have even heard myself say, “I’m too busy in the ministry to which God has called me to worry about something else right now.”  I’m not asking you to think back over opportunities missed so you’ll feel guilty but rather to help open our eyes to the chances God gives us to do what we were created to do.